Three years ago was a big day for me. A day that I finally stopped hiding behind some stupid stigma of not being "allowed" to talk about what happened.
So here's to that article...even though that picture makes me look severely depressed.
It's not always easy. Talking about domestic violence, physical abuse, emotional abuse, or anything else of that nature is hell.
Pure and simple...it is hell.
If done in public- your words are judged, you are considered weak, you are told that your words are inappropriate or unprofessional.
In the eyes of most of the world:
You are lesser of a person for talking about what happened.
You are seeking attention.
You are bringing others "into your personal business."
You are less of a person.
You are a "complainer."
You don't deserve to talk about it because "you don't know what real pain is."
You are unfit to: do your job, take care of children, have a relationship, etc.
You are less of person because you went through the things that you did...
When in reality:
You could truly make a difference.
You have potential.
You have extreme compassion and love.
You choose to use what hurt you to help others.
You are a better person because of what happened.
You are determined.
You are strong enough to speak out about what happened.
You are a better worker, parent, and spouse because of your past.
You are a better person. Because you know what NOT to be.
You may be the child of domestic violence. You may be the wife, husband, or sibling. If you've seen it, dealt with it, or experienced it in any way...you have been affected by it. Don't be afraid to speak out about it, or seek help for it. There is no shame in needing or asking for help. There is no shame in being victimized.
Being victimized...does NOT make you a victim.