Fawn.
Let’s talk trauma response. Particularly because it basically explains everything I do on a daily basis. We all know fight or flight. How about freeze or fawn? I want to make this a 4 part series at some point…but I actually started this post to talk about fawn. Personally- the name pisses me off because it is a baby deer…helpless and unable to fend for themselves. What I think people forget is that all 4 of these trauma responses can consist at once. One human being can handle situations with all of these different responses. I pride myself on being an incredibly strong woman that can care for my babies (and others) without needing help for myself. The idea of letting someone else help me sounds great…but I never feel safe enough to let them. If they do help…I then feel so incredibly guilty for letting them that it turns into an entirely different relationship. I will always feel like I owe them something. Meanwhile, I will kill myself to help someone else, and then f...
